When you are going through a divorce, life is stressful. There are hurt feelings and anger all around. It is natural to want to talk to your friends and vent your frustration. We know that. It may be natural to find a new boyfriend and have a good time with friends in an effort to put it all behind you. We know that, too. What you have to remember is that Facebook can hurt your divorce. That’s right. It seems so obvious but it is so easy to disregard this simple fact. Facebook is now indelibly tied to your reputation and in a divorce, you want yours to be stellar.
Facebook can hurt your divorce. How?
You don’t know how many times we have to defend against pictures posted to Facebook and status updates that were made on the spur of the moment.
- Facebook Can Hurt Your Divorce Through Party Pictures: Really folks, if you are going through a divorce, if you don’t delete your Facebook page completely, make sure that, at minimum, you cease posting pictures of yourself looking like you are at a party. Regardless of how innocuous, never, never post a picture of yourself holding alcohol, appearing drunk, or laughing too hard. It will come back to haunt you, I promise.
- Facebook Can Hurt Your Divorce Through Your New Boy/Girl Friend: Although, it may seem okay to post pictures of your new boyfriend or girlfriend walking hand in hand along a beach or smiling happily into each other’s eyes, don’t do it. It will, most certainly, fan the fire. It will also raise questions of your living situation and whether or not your new hunny is spending the night during your visitation time. Best to nip that line of questioning in the bud.
- Facebook Can Hurt Your Divorce Through Fighting: You never know who is watching what you post. You can easily get into arguments about your divorce with your ex’s friend. Heck, you may begin an online Facebook quarrel with your ex. You may even fight about the laundry with your child. Either way it does nothing to improve your reputation with the court. Do not fight on Facebook.
Remember, anything on line can be seen by more people than you may imagine. Further, all those items are discoverable by opposing counsel. The best advice is to stop posting to Facebook, altogether during a divorce. If that is impossible, take a deep breath before posting a picture or updating your status. Remember, Facebook Can Hurt Your Divorce.