The best divorce attorney and family lawyer in San Diego, Encinitas, and Oceanside offers advice for people with children who are going through a divorce.
The Edmunds Law Firm knows going through a divorce is an emotional and financial strain enough , without the added stress of trying to continue to be a good parent. At times, negative emotions you are feeling and actions you want to take are not in the best interest of your kids. Here is a list of do’s and don’ts when it comes to your kids in your divorce.
What NOT To Do During a Divorce With Children
Many of you probably tell yourself “you would never do that”. However, going through a divorce is a very emotional time, so feelings and actions you may typically “never do” can happen. The following is just a reminder list so you can actively remind yourself what NOT to do.
- Use Children As Pawns. Using your kids as a way to hurt your ex, to prove a point, to relay messages, or any other numerous actions that would bring your kid(s) into the conflict between you and your ex. A lot of times, actions such as these are so subtle you may not even realize you are doing it.
- Assume You Always Know Best. Although harsh sounding, this happens a lot. Again, let’s reiterate that going through a divorce is an emotional roller coaster. Emotional decisions may be made about your child’s welfare, not logical ones. One can easily get so caught up in their divorce and fighting internal battles that sometimes it’s easy to think about what’s best for us-not for the kids best interest. Make sure you’re in the right frame of mind while making decisions on “what’s best.”
- Act Poorly Around Them. Things slip out around children-it’s human nature. You just have to remember that your kids have a father AND a mother. No matter how bad your ex is, they hold attachment for both of you. It will be tempting, but do not talk poorly about your ex in their presence. It could backfire on you!
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