Often times when a client visits me for the first time, I can see the look of sadness in their face. Their loved one has finally done something that’s pushed them over the edge and the time for a divorce or separation has finally come. As people go through the divorce proceedings they ask me what to do and how they can go on with their current lives.
As a San Diego Divorce Attorney giving advice is often the hard part of my life. I do however always suggest the next 5 things to people looking for advice.
1. Get out of the house. I suggest against staying in the same house as the same person who you are currently filing for a divorce or separation from. Even if you guys have an extra room that one of you can stay in, I suggest that you stay with a friend or family member especially for the first few days as you guys decide how you’re going to live apart. Staying together can often bring out old fillings and be hard for both parties involved.
2. Call a friend. A divorce or separation can often have negative affects on your social life. I tell everyone to pick up the phone immediately and call a friend. Burying up the subject and not talking to anyone, will not do you any good. Be open about the situation and feel free to let your emotions pour out if you have to. Grab lunch, go out, but most of all do not think that you are alone.
3. Talk Finances. Take a look at your finances immediately and figure out what you can and cannot do. Couples in the last few years have started keeping separate checking accounts, but before the 90’s doing that was frowned upon. If you had a shared bank account, talk to the other person let them know that your income will be separated. If you were being financially assisted by the other spouse, see number 2 and call friends and family members immediately.
4. Consult a lawyer and police. Thankfully if you are here you, you are doing the right thing, but I always suggest getting a lawyer involved early on and as soon as possible to get the ball rolling on the divorce process. If your spouse and loved one has a chance to be violent, consider getting the police involved as well. Remember your life is more important than the possessions you shared with your spouse.
5. Stand tall. Remember that if things are getting rough between you and your loved one, stand tall and don’t resort to his or her level. If things do get bad call the police or your lawyer, you do not want to stoop to his levels and give him any ammunition that could possibly be used against you.
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