The holidays are full of joy, laughter and most importantly, family. It’s a time when everyone comes together to celebrate all they are thankful for and to close the year with warm, happy memories.
But how can you think about celebrating when your family is being torn apart? Divorce is already hard enough without the stress of the holidays, so the added complication may make this holiday season harder to bear. Getting through this year’s festivities will be tough; however you will emerge stronger and ready to take on the New Year.
Plan How You Will Spend the Holidays
While you don’t need to have every hour of every day scheduled, you should have an idea of whom, what, and where you are going to spend the holidays. Knowing that you are going to be surrounded by family members who love you and want your happiness will make the holidays more bearable.
Handling the Children
While you are planning where you will spend the holidays, also arrange specific dates you will have your children. Figuring it all out before the holidays arrive will make organizing the remainder of the year so much easier.
When planning the dates, remember that your children are going through a difficult time too. Divorce affects kids in different way, especially when their parents’ split is not amiable. The last thing children need to see are mom and dad fighting throughout the holiday season. Be courteous to one another, the holidays are a time for thankfulness after all.
Don’t Be a Scrooge
Divorce is hard, everyone knows it. Your family is being ripped apart and there is no way to stop the pain from taking over. However, the holidays are a time for happiness and merrymaking. And while it may be hard to put on a smile and pretend to be oh so joyful, it will definitely be worth the effort, especially when you are spending time with your children.
Start a New Tradition
Holiday traditions are special, however when dealing with a divorce around the holidays they can be even more painful. So, out with the old and in with the new! Start a new tradition by volunteering at a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter, get involved with your church group, start a children’s toy drive or send care packages to soldiers spending the holidays oversees. Involving your children and family will make giving back more special and will ensure you do it again year after year.
Not letting your divorce take over the holidays will be the best thing you can do, not only for yourself but for your family and children as well. Getting through the holidays will become easier. It may not happen next holiday season or the one after that but eventually you will be looking forward to your new holiday traditions and quality family time.
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