The holidays are a stressful time for divorced families. It can be harder for children who are still not used to the divorce, or worse for kids who haven’t experienced the holidays since the divorce has happened. It’s important to remember that the holidays are supposed to be a happy time for everyone, especially for kids who look forward to the holiday season all year.
We’ve put some tips together to help divorced families create a child-focused holiday season:
Downplay Your Emotions
You may be upset and hurting inside from all the pain the divorce has caused, however its important to keep the negative emotions in check during the holiday season. Children can easily pick up on how you’re feeling, which can impact how you celebrate together. If you know you’re going to need additional support throughout the holidays, schedule time with friends and family to talk about your feelings. This will allow you to be positive around your children, reinforcing the joy and happiness of the season.
Plan out as much of the holiday as you can. Knowing where, when and with who the children are going to be with will ensure a smooth transition between both parents. And don’t forget to let your kids know what the holiday plans are, even when they change last minute. The already chaotic schedule is tough for them to begin with and changing plans last minute can make the transition harder.
Talk To Your Kids
Having an open communication channel with your children is extremely important, especially during the holidays. Explain to your kids how the holidays are different but special for them. Let them know that whatever they are feeling is ok and that you will always be there to listen. Not only will an open communication channel help get them through the holidays, but will also set a foundation for open communication in the future.
While your kids may not remember every gift they received or where they spent the holidays, they will always remember how much fun they had. Make the season as joyous as possible, spend every second together playing games, watching holiday movies, and decorating the house and tree. These things can end up becoming traditions, giving your kids something special to look forward to in the years to come and easing the pain of divorce around the holidays.
The holidays won’t cover the hurt and pain of divorce, however making sure they are fun and festive will slowly ease the ache. It will give your children something to look forward to year every year, hopefully allowing them to come to terms with the divorce.
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