Divorce unfortunately affects more than the two spouses involved. When parents separate and divorce, children can feel stuck in the middle. With children involved it is incredibly important for divorcing spouses to put their disagreements and selfishness aside in order to understand the needs of their children and provide the best solution to dissolving a marriage without dissolving the family. The traditional court scene with a trial, a judge, police and security, and lack of communication will absolutely put a strain on a family in a way that can be irreparable.
Fortunately, there are other options for families who have their children’s feeling and interests at heart, and one of those options is called a Collaborative Divorce. A collaborative divorce begins with the entire team agreeing not to go to court. This is drastically different than an ordinary litigated divorce, where the attorney treats the divorce as any other lawsuit. A Collaborative divorce works with not only an attorney, but mental health professionals and financial advisors to facilitate a peaceful dissolution of the marriage without the battle in the courtroom.
A collaborative divorce incorporates a support system of professionals, not only to help satisfy the needs of the children involved, but to also allow for the coping of the parents with the help of counseling mentally, legally, and financially. The main goal in a collaborative divorce is open lines of communication to facilitate a separation that is easiest on all of those involved. Collaborative divorces keep the children the center focus and urges separating spouses to concentrate on what is actually best for their kids. These conversations include discussions about co-parenting, child development, and the importance of developing a peaceful and respectful relationship between parents.
Parents have a shared-responsibility policy in a collaborative divorce,
where both parents are expected to work together to ensure that their
kids have a solid future with both parents. Parents involved in a collaborative
divorce benefit greatly from the parenting plans that are developed in
the mediation and utilize the communication skills that are reinforced
to help build a bridge between marriage and separation.
Of course, not every couple is cut out for a collaborative divorce. If there is contested litigation or the spouses are unable to work together, a collaborative divorce may cause more harm than good. The candidates best suited for the mediation are a couple who mutually decided to divorce and work together to keep a strong family unit despite the dissolved marriage. If a divorce is handled in the most amicable way possible, all parties may have an easier time coping with the change in family structure and maintain a positive relationship with a focus on adjustment, adaptation and well being.
If you are interested in talking to a divorce attorney or mediator, contacts the divorce attorneys at The Edmunds Law Firm. They have over 30 years of experience in a variety of divorce situations including military divorce, litigation and mediation. Call today for a free case analysis.