The impact that the Internet and social media has on our daily lives is clear, but have you ever considered its impact on your marriage? Recently there has been a large increase in the use of Facebook content as evidence in divorce cases. For all of the good that Facebook provides as far as social networking, social media marketing and information sharing with friends and family, it is dangerous to ignore the way Facebook has morphed into a destructive tool for troubled marriages.
Private Issues Made Public
Facebook makes it incredibly easy to share information with a huge audience with very little effort. Unfortunately, unhappy couples often take advantage of this and post inappropriate issues within their marriage for everyone to see. Instead of confronting their husband or wife directly, individuals often post status updates expressing their frustrations or recent arguments. This decreases face to face interaction between the couple and increases the likelihood of future public disagreements.
Rekindling Old Flames
One of the best things about Facebook is how it helps connect people who have lost touch over the years, but what if those people are ex’s? Many married individuals are making contact with old boyfriends or girlfriends, which can be damaging to a marriage. Rekindling old flames may lead to infidelity, even if it is online through private messages. Becoming emotionally attached to a previous love is easy, and Facebook makes it possible to reach these people and communicate online.
Snooping and Retaliation Made Easy
The nature of Facebook allows a user to see the activity and interactions of other friends on their list, and if one of those friends is a spouse, it is natural that a husband or wife would often “check in” on their spouse’s activity. Facebook makes stalking easy, and unfortunately, this may lead to a disintegration of trust between partners. It is not unheard of for one partner to begin snooping around on Facebook, logging in with the other’s password and checking private messages for signs of infidelity. In the case of someone posting hurtful items about their spouse, or visible flirting with other individuals through posts or comments, Facebook retaliation becomes an issue. When hurt people often retaliate, and Facebook allows this to be public thus continuing to break down a marriage in front of an audience of friends and family.
Evidence in Court
At the point of divorce, lawyers these days are turning to Facebook to collect evidence on their client’s ex. American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers have surveyed lawyers and found that 80% of those surveyed have reported Facebook showing up in divorce cases. Facebook has become the unrivaled leader in online evidence for divorce cases and lawyers often peruse the site for clear evidence including posts, messages, comments and more.
Used correctly, Facebook can be a great tool, connecting friends and opening a line of communication around the world. Used incorrectly, Facebook can poison a healthy marriage and can be the root of turmoil and divorce for unhappy couples. If you are considering divorce, contact the divorce attorneys at the Edmunds Law Firm. Our team can help guide you through the process of divorce and advise you on best social media practices for your specific situation. Don’t hesitate to contact us for a free consultation. Call (800) 481-2526 or fill out the contact form on our website and a member of our staff will get back to you quickly.