For the newly divorced, Valentine’s Day can be the darkest of holidays. With the surrounding population obsessing over love, it may be difficult for separated or divorced individuals to avoid the settling depression and negative feelings associated with their newfound solidarity. By making a plan for the upcoming holiday, singles can take precautions to avoid overwhelming grief that may sneak up on such a day. The San Diego divorce lawyers at The Edmunds Law Firm put together some ideas for coping with, and maybe even enjoying, Valentine’s Day. Here are the first five tips in our two part series.
Although you may have never believed it, you have always heard the saying “It’s better to give than to receive”, right? Well this is the year to make it ring true in your life. Gather a list of those you love: your family, friends, coworkers, strangers, mailman—whomever, and inject some love into their hearts. Deliver a handmade card, leave a surprise valentine, or send flowers to someone close to your heart. Spreading the love to others is a great way to remind yourself that you are still capable of loving at all.
Group Valentines with Single Friends
Although it may not seem like it, plenty of the world’s population is also single. Gather your friends who are still flying solo and celebrate the day with love of a different kind. No one ever said that you can’t have 5 Valentines who also happen to be your best friends.
Valentine’s Day Bonfire
One thing you definitely don’t want to do is wallow in sadness throughout the day. Spending time with the expired love notes can re-open some dangerous wounds that may have just started to heal, so instead, free yourself from the past and host a valentine’s day bonfire. Light up the hurtful memories of the past and recognize how bright your future really is
Depending on what stage of divorce and stage of emotional recovery you happen to be in when the 14th rolls around, you may be ready to venture out into the dating world. Look up singles events happening in your area, or just ask around. We’re not necessarily talking about speed dating or anything, but singles events can be a great way to dip your toes into the dating pool, or just make new friends.
Maybe your divorce is something to celebrate! Spend a day loving yourself and exploring your new freedom by doing something out of the ordinary. Try an activity you have always found interesting, like a yoga or pottery class. Maybe do something exciting like skydiving, or just treat yourself to a day at the spa.
Stay tuned in the upcoming week for five more Valentines Day tips for singles. For more resources about considering and/or coping with separation or divorce, check out our latest articles and resources. If you would like more information about how The Edmunds Law Firm can help you through this difficult time, call (800) 481-2526, or fill out a contact form on our website to get started.