Is your spouse not being faithful? And if they are cheating, how can you tell?
It is an extremely difficult situation and without clear proof, it can be tricky to determine if your significant other is actually being unfaithful. As we discussed in the first part of this series, spouses don’t normally get busted while in the act. If they are cheating, they know they have to be careful, and the fact of the matter is if they are probably fairly skilled at it if they have been doing it for any length of time.
In our experience in dealing with clients who’ve had a cheating spouse – or cheated themselves – there was never a “smoking gun,” instead it was circumstantial evidence over time that lead them to believe there was infidelity. Here is the second batch of clues to look for as put together by the San Diego divorce lawyers at the Edmunds Law Firm:
- Have you had a friend in your group that has recently gone through a separation or a divorce? Was there an acquaintance of yours – or your spouse – that was busted for cheating?
- A resentment of or lack of intimacy could be a dead give-away of a cheating husband or wife. For example, does the spouse get annoyed when you want to kiss, hold hands or cuddle when they get home from work when they would have no problem with it in the past? Is eye contact avoided?
- Does your significant other have a new check or credit card? Has your spouse suddenly purchased a new cell phone? This could be indication that they are hiding something if they are making calls they don’t want you to see.
As we mentioned earlier, it is very rare that a husband or wife gets caught in the act. The simple fact is that you probably won’t walk in on them cheating. If you think your husband or wife is being unfaithful, you will probably need to do some searching and put together a collection of evidence before you actually make an accusation. If you are positive that your spouse is being unfaithful and you are considering divorce, you should contact the San Diego divorce lawyers at the Edmunds Law Firm. Just complete the contact form on our website, or give us a call toll-free at (760) 634-7630.